How HSPs Can Use Courage and Creative Self-Expression to Invite Connection

I’ve been having a great time discussing this topic with my good friend, who suggested I write a post about this. So, here goes.

We’ve noticed many HSP’s struggle with expressing themselves creatively, just as we do.

So I’m going to share what I’ve been learning about courage, creative self-expression and inviting connection into my life.

I can only share my experiences so I’ll share the struggle I had with the criticism I received after I self-published my first book, a book about my own life story, and the single biggest event where I creatively expressed myself. Because I received criticism even from those who had been, up until that point, supportive.

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Chapter Three - Title Unknown

Riley is busy searching, scouring the ground for Taelyn’s newly won Steelie and Taelyn’s thankful he doesn’t notice the red, embarrassed flush gradually fading from her face and neck as she’s walking toward him. Riley’s determined to find her newly won Steelie. Mimicking him, she looks down, her head swiveling and swinging from side to side. Moments later she hears Riley shouting.

“I FOUND it Taelyn! I found it!”

Riley’s eyebrows seem to be attached to invisible threads from the sky, pulling them upward, his eyes as big as teacup saucers. He victoriously holds the Steelie up in the air, the right side of it reticently, but dully shining.

“No WAY Riley!” Taelyn shouts enthusiastically, and she begins running toward him.

Grinning, Riley lowers his arm and watches Taelyn. As she gets closer he tosses the Steelie toward her, the orb spinning and spiraling through the air. She catches the Steelie with one hand and stops in front of Riley, smiling.

“That was an AWESOME shot!” Riley says, beaming at her.

“I got lucky is all,” Taelyn replies, pushing her glasses up on her nose self-consciously while ducking her head and looking away.

“Come on! Race ya to the Fort!” Riley exclaims, breaking into a headlong run toward the bike racks. In the distance, Eddie jumps up from his sitting position and begins running back and forth, his eyes trained on Riley and Taelyn, his mouth is opening as a wide smile begins growing on his face.

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Chapter Two - Title Unknown

The sun hovers majestically, yet unobtrusively, in its cerulean sea quietly observing the excitement below. The air hums with nervous expectancy and vibrates off the crowd of children, twittering and tittering as they watch Aaron and Taelyn fumbling and bumbling with the strings of their marble bags. Finally untangling the strings, their hands jackknife quickly into their small, respective bundles of marbles, as they begin searching for the right marble.

Taelyn can feel the difference in the weight of the marbles. The Cat’s Eyes are the lightest, their pupil-less red, or yellow, or blue, or green or white curves hang suspended in the clear glass orbs. Galaxies are slightly heavier than Cat’s Eyes and either dark blue or black glass orbs with silver specs, like a clear night sky full of twinkling stars. Creamies are white with blue or green waves undulating through them and are the heaviest of the small marbles. Steelies, if you’re lucky enough to have one, are much larger and heavier than the other marbles and are simply large orbs of steel.

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Chapter One - Title Unknown at the Moment...

You just never know when it’s going to be an extraordinary day, because it will always start out like any other ordinary day. Deceivingly, they all start off that way. In fact, the only way you can tell if it’s going to be an extraordinary day? Is if you’re paying close attention to the little details, little details that, when you think back on it, were giving you clues. Well, this happened to be one of those days just loaded with clues…

Like how pockets of air between leaves or stones were catching the early morning sun, causing the air to shimmer, although it wasn’t hot enough out for the air to shimmer – like how on a really hot day when you looked down the road you can see the heat shimmering off the pavement? No, this was a different kind of shimmer. This was a quiet, peaceful, tricky kind of shimmer and the air was heavy and still… not a breeze.

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Unmasking a High Sensation Seeking Highly Sensitive Person: Owning Your Divinity

Higher consciousness isn’t on the same vibrational wave as the time and space continuum. Yet somehow, it is. Separate, yet connected, by many invisible, silken threads. And these silken threads are connected to my Divinity…

This is what I’m learning. And learning is incredibly rewarding.

The first part of my Spiritual journey, my childhood, required I learn and use whatever tools I needed to in order to survive. Some proved useful, many were not.

The second part of my Spiritual journey, the journey of “Unmasking” required I open my Soul and my senses to the external world. To see with different eyes. To try to understand another’s viewpoint that was based in pain and fear. Not surprisingly that part of my journey included a lot of chaos and confusion and many moral compass tests. From this I learned, practiced and received the spiritual benefits of patience, acceptance, fortitude, and equanimity.

And now my Spiritual journey morphs again.

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Unmasking a High Sensation Seeking Highly Sensitive Person: Finding Flow in a Reflection Practice

So the last blog post was about how, as an introverted High Sensation Seeking Highly Sensitive Person, I’ve experienced the J-O-B / career area of life. There’s also a helpful resource for HSPs and HSS/HSPs at the end of the post.

To read that blog post click here.

Now we’re moving on to exploring Reflection. Reflection is one of the natural gifts of having the HSP Trait. We’re predisposed to processing information deeply and reflecting on it. But we can encounter barriers to effectively practicing Reflection.

So in this blog post we’re going to cover:

  • the benefits of practicing Reflection,

  • how to develop a Reflection practice,

  • what takes you away from Reflection.


The Benefits of Practicing Reflection

  • A more grounded, expansive, positive perspective and expression of yourself

  • An increase in your self-esteem and self-confidence

  • A increased compassionate perspective of yourself, those you’ve shared experiences with, and those you currently share experiences with

  • An increased understanding of where to focus your time and energy

  • A more intuitive understanding of knowing when to Reflect

  • An increase in self-awareness

  • An increase in patience for yourself and others

  • An increased sense of balance in your life

  • An increased desire to attend to self-care (as an expression of self-love, self-compassion, self-acceptance and self-forgiveness)

  • A way to gauge your spiritual growth

  • It naturally leads to the ability to mindfully, and compassionately practice “Letting Go” (which is linked to “Flow”)

  • Falling in love with yourself, having more fun and connecting with “Flow” (I know, I said it again, we’ll get to Flow in a moment)

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Unmasking A High Sensation Seeking Highly Sensitive Person: Landing (a J-O-B)

So in the last blog post we were catching a plane leaving Nicaragua while delving into the topic of Staying Balanced and Grounded in order to receive the benefits of Dreamstate. We covered;

  • intention and self-discipline

  • gratitude

  • meditation

  • reframing

  • triggers

  • exercise

  • pH balance

Now that we’ve landed, we’re going to explore the topic of a J-O-B.

Because for those who are HSP / HSS, at some point in their lives, this can be challenging. At least I’ve found it to be. Again, I’m an introverted High Sensation Seeking Highly Sensitive Person.

Now I don’t mean it’s necessarily challenging to find a job, but I have found it challenging at times to enjoy some jobs, to feel a sense of challenge, satisfaction and accomplishment, while being to use my creativity in my job. And I say “feel” because that is one of the main reasons to partake in life, to feel, to be, to experience, to discover – parts about ourselves that we previously didn’t know existed.

And in my case, it wasn’t until a few years ago that I learned I had the HSP Trait and was HSS, so up until that point I had no idea I experienced “life” much differently than about 80% of the rest of the population. But learning I have the HSP Trait and HSS, has since made a huge difference in how I go about “Life”.

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Unmasking A High Sensation Seeking Highly Sensitive Person: Dreamstate and Staying Balanced and Grounded While Flying

In this blog post we’re going to delve into the topic of Staying Balanced and Grounded in order to receive the benefits available to HSPs in Dreamstate.

I’ve boarded my plane to leave Nicaragua and we’re getting ready for take off. The flight attendant is giving us helpful safety instructions for our flight. Most of us tune out when this happens, but being prepared is a good mantra, so in the spirit of preparedness I’ve noticed there are factors that affect my dreamstate, and I’ve no doubt if you’re HSP these same factors are affecting your dreamstate. So we’ll be covering the power of;

  • intention and self-discipline
  • gratitude
  • meditation
  • reframing
  • triggers
  • exercise
  • pH balance

In the last blog post we delved into Dreams, Dream Meanings and States of Consciousness – because for HSPs vivid dreams are something most of us experience on a regular basis.

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Unmasking A High Sensation Seeking Highly Sensitive Person: Flying, Dreams and States of Consciousness

In this blog post we’re going to delve into the topic of Dreams, Dream Meanings and States of Consciousness - because for HSPs vivid dreams are something most of us experience on a regular basis.

In the last blog post we were at the airport getting ready to leave Nicaragua (where we'd been spending some time in a jungle), and we'd been delving into boundaries, specifically; how HSPs on a cultural level have been erroneously taught to relate to boundaries, why boundaries are important, how to identify what aspects of life can cross our boundaries, and, how to set up healthy boundaries that support you. The title of that post was “Customs, Borders and Boundaries”.

But as we ready ourselves for flying I thought it would be a good idea to delve into Dreams and States of Consciousness because for HSPs, the majority of us have been told since we were young, “…dreams are nothing but your subconscious regurgitating what happened during your day...” So we’ve been instructed to not pay attention to our dreams. A fact that couldn't be further from the truth.

So in this blog post we’re going to be looking at;

  • why dreams are important,
  • how to remember your dreams,
  • types of dreams,
  • and, how to interpret a dream.
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Unmasking a High Sensation Seeking Highly Sensitive Person: Customs, Borders and Boundaries

In this blog post we’re going to delve into the topic of Boundaries for HSPs by looking at;

  • how HSPs, on a cultural level, have been erroneously taught to relate to boundaries, 
  • why they’re important,
  • how to identify what aspects of life can cross our boundaries,
  • and, how to set up healthy boundaries that support you.

In the last blog post we looked at the amazing tool available to HSPs, called “Reframing”. We looked at what it is, why it’s beneficial to use this tool, and how to use the tool of reframing. The title of that post was “The Reframing Ferry Ride”.

And after my four hour ferry ride out of a jungle, and then a seven hour bus ride, I find myself standing in a Customs line at the airport in Managua, Nicaragua pondering the reasons why we, as a human species, have set up so many boundaries and borders – on land, in the sea and in our skies. Because part of me recognizes that these are collectively agreed upon constructs that we believe we’ve needed in order to function.

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